Relatives v Relationships

Relatives are people who have a link in kinship. Kinship is a relationship between any entities that share a genealogical origin, through biological, cultural, or historical descent. And descent groups, lineages, etc. are treated in their own subsections.

In anthropology the kinship system includes people related both by descent and marriage, while usage in biology includes descent and mating. Human kinship relations through marriage are commonly called "affinity" in contrast to "descent" (also called "consanguinity"), although the two may overlap in marriages among those of common descent. Family relations as sociocultural genealogy lead back to god.

Kinship is one of the most basic principles for organising individuals into social groups, roles, categories, and genealogy. Family relations can be represented concretely (mother, brother, grandfather) or abstractly after degrees of relationship. A relationship may have relative purchase (e.g., father is one regarding a child), or reflect an absolute link.

 
Relationships – (Extracted from Relationship 101 by John Maxwell)
Relationships are made up of Respect, Shared Experience, Trust, and Reciprocity & Mutual Enjoyment.
Respect
When it comes to relationships, everything begins with respect, with the desire to place value on other people. The thing about respect is that you should show it to others, even before they have done anything to warrant it, simply because they are human beings.
Shared Experience
Respect can lay a foundation for a good relationship, but it alone is not enough. You cannot be relational with someone you do not know. It requires shared experiences over time.
Trust
When you respect people and you spend enough time with them to develop shared experiences, you are in a position to develop trust. Trust is essential to all good relationships.
Reciprocity
One-sided personal relationships do not last. If one person is always the giver and the other is always the receiver, then the relationship will eventually disintegrate. The same is true of all relationships. Show others you care about them.
Mutual Enjoyment
When relationships grow and start to get solid, the people involved begin to enjoy each other. Just being together can turn even unpleasant tasks into positive experiences.

When I look at my relationships I have chosen people who do not work on a one-sided giving and are interested in developing shared experiences. Over the years I have developed a very close relationship with my son, Tim. He works with us in our company, we often go and have dinner out together, every week we either practice our golf at the driving range or have a game of golf. It has been incredible who have built trust and shared experiences. The similar relationship is with our daughter, Veronica who moved to Townsville. We speak many times each week and spend time together when Alexis and I visit Townsville. Being friends in relationship has become more important the just being related.

This week I received a phone call telling me that my father had died. We were related but did not have a relationship. During his whole time my father was alive he never once told me he loved me. I have prayed for my dad for years, but never once saw him respond to accepting that Jesus Christ was the only way to heaven. My last contact with my dad was at my mum's funeral. When I told dad how well our business and life was going. His response was, "Well remember, you will probally fail at some point, be ready for the fall."

I am very grateful to the relationship I have with my older 2 children. They have a strong relationship and trust with me. This has taken a lot of effort and sometimes forgiveness from both sides to build the relationships. I am so glad that I can be a dad with enjoyable experiences with Tim and Veronica. I will always be praying that my other 2 children one day may change their life and build relationships with us.

Modus operandi

Modus operandi is a Latin phrase, approximately translated as "mode of operating". The term is used to describe someone's habits or manner of working, their method of operating or functioning. - Wilkiedia

As you journey through life, do you work on yourself? Do you have a conscious awareness of who you really are?

Your life impact is 99% about you. 1% about the systems or curriculum. How much time and effort do you spend on you? Or are you comfortable with where you are?

Do you come over to people as the real deal. Do people know who is going to show up. It it you or the person you want to show up.

When was the last time that you focused on you and refocused on your Moduc Operandi or do you just accept who you are?

Genuine change come from within you otherwise and change will only be short until you revert back to your old habits.

When did you work on developing your conscious and unconscious mind?

Your Modus Operandi can be great and expose a great you.

Go forward and go upward.

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Integrity

I am sitting at home, after an interesting time today. Been to the dentist today to have a very painful back tooth fixed. The dentist have to drill out the tooth, deaden some nerves and then fill the tooth. It was one of those day where I was not UP but GETTING UP. At times like this I often get to thinking.

I have been reading the book "Aspire" by Kevin Hall. I am reading the chapter about Integrity.

Integrity means whole and complete. When we are a person of integrity we are a person who keep their "whole" word not just part of it. Do we keep 100% of our words, 100% of the time. Or do we say we meant well but then give an excuse or explanation.

Do we need a contract to bind / commit us to something or is our word our bond.

The word comes from old Italy, where sculptors would stamp the words "sine cera" which meant built without wax to cover the flaws. Do we have "sine cera" stamped on our life. Are we "sincere" 100% of the time with 100% of the people we have contact with.

This is not an easy task to be a person of integrity who is sincere.

As I walk through this life, I can see why the Bible tells me not to be quick to give my word. I have learnt only to give my word to someone or something hen I have thought it through and am committed to be able to honour my word, once I have given it.

May we all reflect and be people of integrity. People today need to know who they can trust.

Can you say I am a person of INTEGRITY.

Coach

Coach is something, or someone, who carries a valued person from where they are to where they want to be.
Over the years I have trainer many people in different qualifications. It is easy to train a person who wants to go on the journey, they add value to them self and to you as the proceed through the qualification.
John Maxwell says the education takes easy things and complicates them, while leadership takes complicated things and makes the easy to understand.
I have found over the years that when you value people (even those who do not value you or them self), you start them on a journey of learning (adding value). It is their choice if the want a long journey or short trip.
We see our training business (and now the John Maxwell Team coaching) as a bus. Many people will get on and off our bus. We will always add value and work on connecting with them to have a fruitful journey.
Every person who contacts us is a valued person. When the phone rings, I often think, "Hey, another valued person, contacting us." Regardless of what the call is about I then can enjoy communicating with that person. No phone call is an interruption, because how can it be an interruption, when a VALUABLE person is calling me.