In anthropology the kinship system includes people related both by descent and marriage, while usage in biology includes descent and mating. Human kinship relations through marriage are commonly called "affinity" in contrast to "descent" (also called "consanguinity"), although the two may overlap in marriages among those of common descent. Family relations as sociocultural genealogy lead back to god.
Kinship is one of the most basic principles for organising individuals into social groups, roles, categories, and genealogy. Family relations can be represented concretely (mother, brother, grandfather) or abstractly after degrees of relationship. A relationship may have relative purchase (e.g., father is one regarding a child), or reflect an absolute link.
Relationships – (Extracted from Relationship 101 by John Maxwell)
Relationships are made up of Respect, Shared Experience, Trust, and Reciprocity & Mutual Enjoyment.
Respect
When it comes to relationships, everything begins with respect, with the desire to place value on other people. The thing about respect is that you should show it to others, even before they have done anything to warrant it, simply because they are human beings.
Shared Experience
Respect can lay a foundation for a good relationship, but it alone is not enough. You cannot be relational with someone you do not know. It requires shared experiences over time.
Trust
When you respect people and you spend enough time with them to develop shared experiences, you are in a position to develop trust. Trust is essential to all good relationships.
Reciprocity
One-sided personal relationships do not last. If one person is always the giver and the other is always the receiver, then the relationship will eventually disintegrate. The same is true of all relationships. Show others you care about them.
Mutual Enjoyment
When relationships grow and start to get solid, the people involved begin to enjoy each other. Just being together can turn even unpleasant tasks into positive experiences.
When I look at my relationships I have chosen people who do not work on a one-sided giving and are interested in developing shared experiences. Over the years I have developed a very close relationship with my son, Tim. He works with us in our company, we often go and have dinner out together, every week we either practice our golf at the driving range or have a game of golf. It has been incredible who have built trust and shared experiences. The similar relationship is with our daughter, Veronica who moved to Townsville. We speak many times each week and spend time together when Alexis and I visit Townsville. Being friends in relationship has become more important the just being related.
This week I received a phone call telling me that my father had died. We were related but did not have a relationship. During his whole time my father was alive he never once told me he loved me. I have prayed for my dad for years, but never once saw him respond to accepting that Jesus Christ was the only way to heaven. My last contact with my dad was at my mum's funeral. When I told dad how well our business and life was going. His response was, "Well remember, you will probally fail at some point, be ready for the fall."
I am very grateful to the relationship I have with my older 2 children. They have a strong relationship and trust with me. This has taken a lot of effort and sometimes forgiveness from both sides to build the relationships. I am so glad that I can be a dad with enjoyable experiences with Tim and Veronica. I will always be praying that my other 2 children one day may change their life and build relationships with us.
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