Can you or will you

Listening to Minute with Maxwell, a 1 minute DVD by John Maxwell. John was speaking about WILLING. "Can he or can she" is all about the ability to do something and "will he or will she" is about all about attitudde.
I have experience this a lot with people who are enrolled in our courses. The do have the skills to study or collect a profile but they are unwilling to go throught the process. They always have an excuse to explain why they have not done something. But neve do the say to me, "I was unwilling to go through the process." They get offended when I ask why they were unwilling to proved their evidence.
I also see this unwillingness in the churches in the Mackay Area. So much is spoken about be the different member on caring for people but their actions of excluding people from their inner circle and friendship groups show an unwillingness to embrace people into our social life and connect with them.
If we igonre so many people, all the praying we do will not bring people into our inner circle.
Next time you are having an outing invite those extra people who make you unconfortable, you may just add some value to them.
Over the last 5 years has been interesting for me. My oldest daughter almot died, but we had no support from the church we were attending, while she was in hospital not one "church leader" visited her or contact my wife or me to see if they could help us. Last November I had a stroke, I had one vist fron one church leader but no other contact to see if we need help.
Is it any wonder that our churches are see poor attendance. In Mackay the church I attend, I have invited many people to visit with us on Sunday to church. The most common reply is that church, I have been there but most people do not talk to you there.
As I travel I have visited many churches and in most times we have been warmly welcomed and I have noticed that these churches are growing because they are connecting with people.
The two questions for you is "Can you do this? Then ask "Am I willing to do this?"
How can YOU add value to someone?
Are you willing to ADD VALUE to someone today?